"beth thomas" <epthomas@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
news:-7-dnUw8TqIjVyzVnZ2dnUVZ_tCdnZ2d@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> One of the main things I see is a much more casual way of addressing
> parents...I still can't address my friends' parents (the ones I knew as
a
> kid, that is) by first name, they will always be Mr. or Mrs. Same with
> aunts and uncles. Now, my kids' friends call me Beth, or Miss Beth ,
and
> my niece and nephew don't use 'aunt'. I see my kids' friends being more
> open / casual with me, not in a rude way, but they will joke and cut up
> whereas when I was younger I never considered that with the 'rents.
I can't stand being called "Mrs" anything. A few of the kids' friends call
me Miss Marie, and it's all right (and it's easier to pay attention to
than
when they run up yelling "X's mom, X's mom, X got hurt!" lol I'd rather
not
be called anything except my name. I don't push the Mr. or Mrs. with my
children, either.(or ma'am or sir) Of all the adults I called Mr. or Mrs.
when I was little, I still only call one Miss Betty. This same lady who
taught me as a child has taught all three of my children so we all call
her
Miss Betty. No one that I know pronounces the Mrs. properly either, it's
always "Miss" or "Mister". We use Aunt and Uncle maybe half the time, but
it's not out of respect, it's out of love and it's definately not any kind
of proof of having good manners. It also helps prevent confusion if you
know
more than one person with the same name. Growing up, we called people Mr
and
Mrs but I remember I called my mom's best friend by her name, without the
Mrs, and I also called my best friend's mom by her name.
As for what I consider actual manners- phone manners, table manners, and
in
public manners, my children and their friends don't have problems with any
of these, but I have had problems with a couple of family members. One had
a
tantrum in the store at age 10 and was pouty and petty the whole weekend
she
stayed here. And as much as she wants to come back, I will not allow a
child(that old!) who behaves that way to stay with me. And I have neices
who
refuse to eat just about anything and will only eat fried cheese sticks,
chicken nuggets, corn dogs and cheese pizza. They will not even taste a
new
food. My childrens' friends who stay at my house will eat anything and
will
try anything new.
Marie
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