"beth thomas" <epthomas@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> I see my kids' friends being more open / casual with me, not in a rude
> way, but they will joke and cut up whereas when I was younger I never
> considered that with the 'rents.
I didn't comment on this part earlier. There were certain parents who were
more open to communication with their kids' friends, and I think those are
more likely to be joked around with. I have a group of friends and all of
our daughters are good friends and house-hop frequently, and they all are
also close to all the moms. It feels really great, and all the moms have
talked about it and appreciate the openness.
My mom's best friend growing up was always-to me-very strange. Her family
was so quiet, and at dinner time no one talked, smiles at their house were
very rare. So I wouldn't have dared joked or even talked unless I was
asked
a question. Their daughter and I were friends until we grew up and parted
ways. But then my best friend's family was very open and funny and
talkative
and I wouldn't have dared NOT joked or talked at her house. Thankfully we
are still close friends after all this time.
Do you think maybe they are more casual with you because you allow them to
be, and you don't make them feel awkward?
I just hope that having friends like that means if there is trouble they
will feel they can talk to you about it. My oldest is only 13 and there's
been no real trouble yet so I guess we'll see!
Marie
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