"Ericka Kammerer" <eek@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> Kat wrote:
>
>> Quite frankly, I do NOT want to be known as "Mrs-Something" to all the
>> kids... That's just maybe a personal thing for me.
>
> I think that's the biggest reason for the drop off in
> the use of titles by children. It actually worries me
> a little bit, as there are definitely times when I believe one
> ought to use more formal address (and one should never presume
> to use a first name without being invited to do so), and I
> wonder whether kids will default to informal address when it's
> inappropriate because they have so little experience with
> anything else. That's not to say that I think that all kids
> must call all adults Mr/Ms/Miss/Mrs, but I think it's appropriate
> when there isn't a reasonably close relation****p. My compromise
> is the old Southern tradition of Miss/Mr FirstName when Title +
> LastName seems too formal.
>
> Best wishes,
> Ericka
I do agree. I almost always address myself by first name. I've actually
found that most people we know have done the same. I don't really think
I,
or we, have any friends that we weren't friends with before the kids were
born or shortly after. Almost everyone I still associate with I have
known
many, many years.
If I make an introduction of someone to the kids, I will normally say
something like, "DS, this is Mrs. Smith. Billy's mom" - at that point, I
do
feel it's Mrs. Smith's place to either say nothing and be alright with
being
known as Mrs. Smith, or it's her choice and place to say, "You know, I am
Mrs. Sally Smith, Billy's mom, but you can call me Sally if you'd like."
If
I'm called a Mrs, I am quick to inform them that the Mrs is my mom, please
use my name. I don't even ever recall anyone calling my parents by Mr or
Mrs.
I've found that this situation is rarely an occurance. Even friends that
I
don't talk to very much at all or the kids don't know very well, normally
I
will introduce them under their first name - this is only assuming I *do*
know them, and I've found that many, if not almost all, people my age
aren't
crazy about being a Mr or Mrs ;) Maybe in a few more years that might
change, but right now, I do prefer my first name being used, even if the
person using my name is a child.
I actually think I would be a little shocked and slightly upset if I
called
a friend's house and their child I know (and knows me) answered and said
Mrs
is on the phone lol
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