"Lizajane" <lizaambler@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
> The only problem is he WILL NOT sleep by himself, even if we are in
> the room. We have two bassinets, one for our bedroom and one for the
> den. Even if he is sound asleep, if I try to put him into one of his
> beds, he almost immediately wakes up and wails until someone comes to
> get him. This is after he has been fed, changed, burped, etc. I don't
> feel right just letting him cry, but I tried to yesterday and he went
> on for 5 minutes.
I read an article recently (not sure where, sorry) that indicated that
babies up until the age of 6 months can feel (not all, but some of them)
abandoned when they are not very close to a parent. By close I mean in the
same bed, in the arms, etc... The article went on to say that at about 6
months of age, a baby knows that he/she is not being abandoned and tends
to
transition to his own bed easier... The article also mentioned that the
parents often have the hardest time adjusting after 6 months of
co-sleeping.
If holding him 24 hours is not an option.. which I suspect it is not, try
a
vibrating basssinet (my pack n play came with the vibrating option) music,
soft varrying lights (like the fiber-optics lights from the 70's that look
like little trees) or something else a bit distracting.
>I don't believe in "crying it out," and even if I
> did, his crying for a long period of time causes a physical response
> in my body that is uncomfortable!
I myself do not believe in the crying it out method. At least not until
the
child is old enough to "manipulate" you. I guess with that you have to be
the judge yourself though lol. My opinion might change after my baby gets
here ;-)
>He sleeps well in a "family bed"
> situation, which suits me fine, but my husband is afraid that one of
> us will smother him, or that we will never be able to make the
> transition in to his crib in his own room. Also, we just need some
> time to cuddle and kiss and generally be together and it's hard to do
> if a baby is crying! I expected some of this, and don't expect to have
> much uninterupted sleep, but jeez, 15 minutes would be nice. What does
> everyone else do?
Ya know, I am terrified about sleeping with Alegra (once she finally gets
here that is!) But, to help avoid the scare of smothering her, or rolling
over on her, etc... I have bought an extra changing table pad to put
between
S/O and myself for her to sleep on. They are raised a bit, and therefore
would stop you before you rolled over on to the baby.
At a Target store the other day, there was a specific item made especially
for co-sleeping, but it was about $50 USD and I simply was not going to
pay
that much for something like that!
Another option is to get the side/back sleeping wedges for him. Those run
under $15 USD.
And, for the "couple time" you could try the same distraction methods
listed
above...
Sorry if my rambling made little sense... was at the hospital with sister
(more severe contractions) for about 14 hours today!
--
LES!
Daddie to Alegra Lee. Due 6-02-03
"Daddie's Little Diva"
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