No sorry I should have said in my earlier post we didn't try with the
crying
thing until after he was a month old at least when we went to a family
centre in desperation! Hadn't even heard of it until then (crying it out
that is).
Judy
"Ericka Kammerer" <eek@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> Lizajane wrote:
>
> > Gabriel Day Evans was born to us on May 16th. He is wonderful - of
> > course I think he is the most beautiful child ever born. I can tell he
> > will have a sweet disposition, he smiles to himself all the time and
> > though I know they are not "social smiles" I think it means something.
> > The only problem is he WILL NOT sleep by himself, even if we are in
> > the room. We have two bassinets, one for our bedroom and one for the
> > den. Even if he is sound asleep, if I try to put him into one of his
> > beds, he almost immediately wakes up and wails until someone comes to
> > get him. This is after he has been fed, changed, burped, etc. I don't
> > feel right just letting him cry, but I tried to yesterday and he went
> > on for 5 minutes. I don't believe in "crying it out," and even if I
> > did, his crying for a long period of time causes a physical response
> > in my body that is uncomfortable! He sleeps well in a "family bed"
> > situation, which suits me fine, but my husband is afraid that one of
> > us will smother him, or that we will never be able to make the
> > transition in to his crib in his own room. Also, we just need some
> > time to cuddle and kiss and generally be together and it's hard to do
> > if a baby is crying! I expected some of this, and don't expect to have
> > much uninterupted sleep, but jeez, 15 minutes would be nice. What does
> > everyone else do?
>
> It is waaaaaaaaaayyyy too early to worry about crying it
> out (even proponents don't recommend it for newborns!) or about
> whether he'll transition easily to a bed someday. You've got
> *at least* four months, and probably six months, before you need
> to worry about having formed sleeping habits that will stick around.
> Newborns have huge adjustments to make. There's no need to force
> sleeping alone right this minute just to make sure you're not
> forced unwilling into a long-term family bed situation.
> If your husband is worried about safety, look up the
> guidelines for co-sleeping safely and make sure your bed is
> safe. If he's still worried about rollovers, get one of those
> little thingies you can put in the bed that surrounds the
> baby on three sides so the baby can't go anywhere and you'd
> surely notice if you rolled over on the baby (not that that's
> particularly likely anyway).
> We had a cradle by our bed, but the baby not infrequently
> ended up in bed with us after some feeding where I was too tired
> to put him back. It wasn't until 4-6 months before we moved
> the kids to a crib, and the transition went just fine--no fuss
> at all. By then, they actually slept better without *our* noises
> waking *them* up. Also, it's not at all uncommon for newborns
> to do poorly in a crib just because there's too much open space
> and they like feeling more confined. You might try swaddling
> and see if that helps. Babies are also comforted by your
> smell. You might try a blanket that you've kept by your
> body a few days so that it smells like you.
>
> Good luck,
> Ericka
>
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