although for the first month or maybe even two months, it is ok to rock the
baby to sleep; but if you rock every single time to get him to fall
asleep, then the baby will NEED to be rocked in order to fall asleep, and
will not be able to fall asleep on his own in the crib. letting him 'cry
it
out' is okay for 10-15 minutes. if it is longer than 15 minutes, maybe
something is bothering him. but babies cry!! by training your baby to fall
asleep on his own, even though it may feel like you are neglecting him by
letting him cry in the crib, you are actually teaching him to be able to
fall asleep by himself, teaching him better sleeping habits, and
eventually
to go down for naps and night time sleep very easily. a great book about
this topic is 'babywise'. i would recomend you check it out
"Wendy J." <love2ebay2@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> lizaambler@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>...
> > Gabriel Day Evans was born to us on May 16th. He is wonderful - of
> > course I think he is the most beautiful child ever born. I can tell he
> > will have a sweet disposition, he smiles to himself all the time and
> > though I know they are not "social smiles" I think it means something.
> > The only problem is he WILL NOT sleep by himself, even if we are in
> > the room. We have two bassinets, one for our bedroom and one for the
> > den. Even if he is sound asleep, if I try to put him into one of his
> > beds, he almost immediately wakes up and wails until someone comes to
> > get him. This is after he has been fed, changed, burped, etc. I don't
> > feel right just letting him cry, but I tried to yesterday and he went
> > on for 5 minutes. I don't believe in "crying it out," and even if I
> > did, his crying for a long period of time causes a physical response
> > in my body that is uncomfortable! He sleeps well in a "family bed"
> > situation, which suits me fine, but my husband is afraid that one of
> > us will smother him, or that we will never be able to make the
> > transition in to his crib in his own room. Also, we just need some
> > time to cuddle and kiss and generally be together and it's hard to do
> > if a baby is crying! I expected some of this, and don't expect to have
> > much uninterupted sleep, but jeez, 15 minutes would be nice. What does
> > everyone else do?
>
> Our daughter is 6 weeks today and she slept in a bassinet for the
> first couple of weeks and was doing fairly well but because I was
> nursing I began to let her sleep in our bed for the next couple of
> weeks because it was easier and she seemed to fall asleep quicker and
> stay asleep longer. However, I never really felt totally comfortable
> with her in our bed in case one of us would roll over on her by
> accident and the thought that she would never make the transition into
> her crib. So, for the past 2 weeks she has been in her crib. This is
> what I do to get her to sleep:
>
> Bath her at around 9pm (I am convinced that this wears (sp?) her out).
>
> Nurse her in our bed with dim lights(lying down position) until she is
> sleepy.
>
> Carefully pick her up and rock her in the rocking chair in the nursery
> until she falls asleep (it takes 15 minutes for them to fall into a
> deep sleep).
>
> I continue rocking her in my arms while I walk from the rocking chair
> to the crib.
>
> As far as actually placing her in the crib it is hard for me to
> describe what I do but I lean over into the crib when I put her down
> and keep my arms around her for a few seconds and keep rocking her
> with one hand. Often as soon as I put her down she will awaken so
> keeping one hand on her rocking her gently seems to work while I pull
> the covers over her with the other hand. If she awaken I pick her up
> BEFORE she starts to cry and rock her again in the rocking chair and
> go throught the same procedure. I have found that if I let her cry
> she doesn't stop and she just gets herself into a state which makes it
> harder to settle her again. I have let her cry for about 5 mins but
> it doesn't work and she never falls asleep by herself. I also don't
> believe in the crying it out way.
>
> I hope this helps a little bit and good luck with getting her to
> sleep.
>
> By the way, not to scare you or anything but a family member of mine
> who happens to be a police officer was dispatched to call yesterday in
> which the mother had rolled over and smothered her son. It was a
> horrific story. If I had heard this a few weeks ago I definitely
> wouldn't have let my daughter sleep with us.
>
> Wendy J.
> Katie (born 4/13/03)
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