Re: Using Ferber method in everyday life

>If I continue to pick my baby up,  and not teach him how to 'cry it
>out'  & comfort himself during the day - am I setting myself up later
>for a lot of problems, IE:  clingy child with social problems?

Quite the opposite, actually.  Babies whose need for touch, comfort, and
attention from their mother (and/or other primary caregivers) are NOT met
early
on are MORE likely to be clingy and shy later, because they are not as
secure
in their mother's love.>>

Hear, hear! My mother broke her hip less than a year after I was born and
was
not able to be available for me for quite some time after that. And Dad
worked
very hard, and long hours, to provide a good home for us. I was raised by,
shall we say, professional caregivers (although I don't know if that was
the
term in the 1960's). To this day I'm not especially, or at least not
immediately, trusting of most people, and have a severe aversion to
physical
contact. I've talked it out any number of times but it hasn't changed the
situation, and I've learned to live with it. But some part of my mond does
wonder -- is it because I did not receive much in the way of physical
attention
as a very young child?