Re: Using Ferber method in everyday life

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> If I continue to pick my baby up,  and not teach him how to 'cry it
> out'  & comfort himself during the day - am I setting myself up later
> for a lot of problems, IE:  clingy child with social problems?  If I
> somehow find it in my heart to let him cry for longer duratons, can
> that make him distrust me?  I'm really confused.


	I have never left my children to cry it out and
both of the older kids are happy, independent, unspoiled
kids.  They certainly aren't clingy.  The older one is
a bit more shy than the younger, but that's just his
temperment and no one would have called him clingy.  I
would think that just the opposite would be true--if
you leave your baby to cry, you'll just *force* him
to be whiny and clingy because he won't trust you to
be there when he needs you.  Instead, he'll insist on
you being with him *all* the time in the hopes that
maybe you'll be there when he does really need you.
	Sure, there are times when you need a moment
or two and you can't drop everything and pick up your
baby the second he cries.  But you can keep him near
and talk to him and reassure him and get to him as
soon as you can when he asks for you.  The more he
knows you'll be there when he really needs you, the
more willing he'll be to give you a little space
when you need it.

Best wishes,
Ericka