mom0f4boys <momshea4@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in
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> I am having such a hard time with my 3rd son. I start
> the day
> off with high hopes and lots of energy, and I respond to
> his negativity with a good attitude, but dammit - he just
> wears me down so badly. When my husband has the day off,
> he helps, but he winds up as frustrated as me after a
> while. It's ridiculous..... our son ends up sitting at the
> kitchen table and the best we can come up with, finally, is
> just "Don't talk!"
> Reasoning is useless, punishments seem unhelpful,
> trying to
> find him 'something else' to do is so short-lived....... we
> are so exhausted . He drives his brothers insane, he
> drives US insane, he is unhappy......... dealing with this
> sucks the happiness out of us, too.
> Complaining, arguing, niggling, sighing, bothering,
> ....always
> FUSSING... I know this boy is good and that he deserves
> love and deserves to have someone on his side. Dammit...
> I TRY. But he just kills it after a while. I'm not an
> endless source of goodwill.
> I lost it today. I smacked him really hard... even
> though I
> knew it was wrong and just an anger-vent.
> His 3 brothers are sick of him. I'M sick of him.
> Yet, I am
> the mom and I know I am his only hope. I am so ashamed
> that I lost it today. Ashamed, guilty, frustrated and out
> of answers. I'll wake up tomorrow and try again. TRY, I
> say. But it isn't 'trying' at this point, anymore. It's
> just spending. I will spend all of my patience and effort
> again tomorrow..... he will use me up again.
> I see this child, I see his good points. But he
> is so
> difficult.
have you had him seen by a pediatric developmental
psychologist? it could be that he's not so much "difficult" as
trying to cope with some developmental issues you aren't aware
of. he could have hearing issues, sensitivity issues (touch,
sound, taste, smells), etc.
since sensory issues are the way the child is, a kid with
those type of problems quite often doesn't even realize that
what he hears, sees, tastes, smells or feels isn't just like
everyone else. a child with hearing issues doesn't know he's
not like everyone else. some kids learn to cope by becoming
withdrawn, others are just off-the-wall.
get him evaluated & see if the doctor can suggest behavioral
modifications that work for your son. you can pretty well bet
your son isn't a very happy kid if he's always getting in
trouble, so get him some real professional help. everyone will
be happier.
lee
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