You really need to have this child tested. It really won't get easier
unless
you know what you are dealing with. If he needs medication for ADHD, I
really cannot understand why people won't try to use it. If he had
diabetes,
would you hesitate to use insulin? There are a lot of ADHD medications out
there that are much better than they used to be and not every one has
horrible side effects.
--
Sue (mom to three girls)
"mom0f4boys" <momshea4@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> I am having such a hard time with my 3rd son. I start the day
> off with high hopes and lots of energy, and I respond to his
> negativity with a good attitude, but dammit - he just wears me down so
> badly. When my husband has the day off, he helps, but he winds up as
> frustrated as me after a while. It's ridiculous..... our son ends up
> sitting at the kitchen table and the best we can come up with,
> finally, is just "Don't talk!"
> Reasoning is useless, punishments seem unhelpful, trying to
> find him 'something else' to do is so short-lived....... we are so
> exhausted . He drives his brothers insane, he drives US insane, he is
> unhappy......... dealing with this sucks the happiness out of us, too.
> Complaining, arguing, niggling, sighing, bothering, ....always
> FUSSING... I know this boy is good and that he deserves love and
> deserves to have someone on his side. Dammit... I TRY. But he just
> kills it after a while. I'm not an endless source of goodwill.
> I lost it today. I smacked him really hard... even though I
> knew it was wrong and just an anger-vent.
> His 3 brothers are sick of him. I'M sick of him. Yet, I am
> the mom and I know I am his only hope. I am so ashamed that I lost it
> today. Ashamed, guilty, frustrated and out of answers. I'll wake up
> tomorrow and try again. TRY, I say. But it isn't 'trying' at this
> point, anymore. It's just spending. I will spend all of my patience
> and effort again tomorrow..... he will use me up again.
> I see this child, I see his good points. But he is so
> difficult.
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